Are you constantly worried that your partner doesn't love you or will leave you?
Do you feel like your past relationships are affecting your ability to connect with your partner?
Do you feel like nothing you do is good enough for your partner?
You're at the right place!
I support couples with either one or both partners experiencing dissatisfaction in the relationship. Our brains are wired for connection with others. Our nervous system gets dysregulated when we feel disconnected from people, especially with those who are most important to us. I support couples in rekindling the connection they used to have, or possibly experiencing a new, deeper connection for their first time.
What does couples therapy look like?
I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which is an evidence-based couples therapy treatment based on attachment theory. Attachment theory teaches us that human beings are innately relational, social and wired for intimate bonding with others. The EFT model prioritizes emotion and emotional regulation as the key in driving our experience and behaviors in relationships. Our brains are constantly seeking reassurance that the person who matters the most to us care, value, and accept us. When it detects that the other person isn't there for you, your body and brain can freak out!
In our sessions, I will utilize mindfulness to stay curious to how each of your internal worlds and perceptions affect each other. Often times, we only see our partner's behaviors that might trigger a red flag inside of us, but EFT and mindfulness allows us to pause and go deeper into understanding what is really going on inside you and your partner. Deeper understanding deepens the capacity for compassion and empathy for yourself and your partner.